I like making lists. I have a list of my life goals, of the books I want to read, of the things I want to buy, of new recipes I want to try. Name something and you can make a list of it! But there is a list that I believe is very important yet usually underestimated and set aside. It’s your worry list.
You might think you don’t need one, why should you think about negative stuff?! I agree with you, I used to have this quotes saved on my phone, “Positive vibes only”.
But the reality is that we all have a worry list, and sometimes they are quite long. It might not be written, but I’m sure you have a worry list at the back of your mind that pops out at the least appropriate time. It keeps growing and butting your mind, and you keep pushing it back, hoping it will eventually disappear. But it won’t, at least not until you’ll do something about it!
Worrying can affect your mental peace and your life, and if you don’t deal with it soon, it can steal your peace and joy. There are things that can’t be solved in a day or a year, or will never change sometimes, but the weight you put in them do really make a difference.
It’s time for you to declutter your mind and do some worry list cleaning!
Write the list
Make a list of things that you worry about, you’ll immediately see how liberating it is. Write everything, from the smallest problem and your silliest annoyance to your bigger and more serious problems. Writing them down will help you to face the facts better and more directly, than just meditating on them every now and then.
Do you really have to worry about it?
For each problem, take some time to analyze it. At the end, you will realize that some things are really not worth worrying about, and if that is the case, just cross it out. Your worry list will get shorter and shorter, while your mind and heart lighter and lighter.
For each thing that you wrote ask yourself:
- does this thing depend on me?
- what is under my control and responsibility?
- What is the best thing I can do to help?
- What is not under my control and responsibility?
The true key is knowing what you can realistically do and do it, acknowledging what you can’t do and then just move on.
There’s no point in chewing over and over matters that we can’t change, it doesn’t help anyone and it only drains you of your positive energy. Use your valuable energy on productive and positive things instead!
We should learn to just move on and focus more on what we can really change. If you can’t change a room, then change the interiors. If you can’t change the character of someone, then maybe you should evaluate your relationship with them or just accept them as they are. If you can’t change a situation, you can still change yourself and your attitude toward it.
I used to over worry about some people that are close to me. I knew they had difficult personalities, I wanted them to change, I wanted also to protect them from the judgment of others, but it was not my duty to do it. It only exhausted me emotionally and mentally. Sometimes we just have to move on about things we can’t change that are not under our direct responsibility. It doesn’t mean you have to accept anything, but instead, focus on what you can really do and do it well.
So, were you able to cross out many things out of your worry list? I hope so! If you enjoyed this post, please show me your love and support by sharing and repining, like Unlock your Light Facebook page and follow me on Blog Lovin!
What is the silliest thing you worry about?