The main reason people fail at achieving their goals and their dreams is motivation. We tend to either lack a good motivation behind, or we are too dependent on it as a feeling.
The real key to achieving anything in life is discipline. Whether you like it or not, even if you don’t feel like doing it, you have to do the right thing. Working!
I’ve been guilty for this too, and I’m actually preaching to myself too right now.
Dreaming is beautiful and fun, but doing the real work is a hustle! When we have to do the real work, then motivation starts to sink. We start to feel demotivated, tired and lazy.
The secret is to find the right balance between our emotions and our brain. We all need to be motivated to be happy in anything we do, otherwise, we would be machines without emotions. So, let’s see how we can keep up our motivation up while doing the hustle!
Keep your eyes on the prize!
We are visual creatures. As images and what our eyes see can attract us (from enticing advertisements, beautiful mouthwatering cakes, to pretty faces 😉 ), we can use this to our favor. The more you look at something, the more your desire to take it is stronger. If it’s a wrong thing, keep it away from your eyes, but if it’s a goal, keep it in front of your eyes as much as you can!
This is how you can keep your eyes fixed on the prize.
1. Make a Vision Board
A Vision Board is not only for kids, it is for everyone! If you don’t have one yet, go and start making one today! It’s not only fun, but it works on keeping your motivation up whenever your eyes will see it. You can use a corkboard, a magnetic board, a simple piece of cardboard, or any surface you don’t care to mess around, like a big mirror, a window or your wardrobe cabinet.
Remember to put your vision board in a place where you can see it every day!
2. Make a Vision Box
It has the same purpose as the Vision Board and it can complement it. Take a pretty box you like and fill it with things that you feel connected to your goal. You can put inside anything you can’t glue or pin on your Vision Board, like solid things. Then, leave it on your desk, or beside your bed.
Anytime you’ll feel demotivated, open it and rediscover what’s inside :).
3. Surround yourself with images
Beside the Vision Board and Vision-Box, you can surround yourself with your dreams! Anytime I feel a little bit discouraged, I love looking for images related to my dreams and goals and then save them on my phone. I love browsing through them every now and then to motivate myself. Create a special folder on your phone, computer and tablet with images and quotes that inspire you, and use your favorites as screensavers too!
4. Surround yourself with triggers
This is also related to the previous ideas, but you can take your senses a step further to create more momentum. Surround yourself with triggers that you can scatter here and there around your house, or wear them! These can be objects like paintings, posters, decorations, clothes, anything!
A few examples:
- you can make a table name tag with the title position you want to get and your name
- you can study with a white scrub with your name on it if you want to become a doctor (like when you were a kid!)
- if your dream is to write a book, you can create your book cover and stick it on a book
- if you want to lose weight, buy a dress in the size you want to achieve and keep it in front of your wardrobe or mirror (idea from Terry Savelle Foy).
Play and use your imagination! It can sound silly and funny, but if it helps you to achieve what you want or to grow your motivation, why not trying it? It would be more silly not trying something that works!
5. Watch videos, listen to podcast and watch movies
When I was studying for four exams at the same time, I used to watch videos on study routines and study techniques. Believe it or not, I felt more excited and determined to study, and I was always full of energy! I was able to not only give all the exams, but also take high grades. Not bad for someone like me that has never been a brilliant student in all her studying career! Watching others doing what you want to do will motivate you, keep you in the momentum, and also give you helpful advice!
6. Be your n°1 fan!
When no one else is by your side, when no one believes in you or in your dream, you’ll always have you!
It is important to have a good and healthy relationship with yourself to live a happy life. You have to accept, respect and love yourself. Don’t try to be someone you’re not, you’re amazing and unique the way your Creator made you!
Despite all the people you have around that love you and stand by you, there will be times in your life when you will find yourself alone or have to count on yourself only. In these moments, will you be still happy and content to be with yourself only? Will you have the strength to go on?
Be your number 1 fan! If you believe in yourself, you can always count on yourself in any circumstances.
Show more self-love by writing love letters and speaking positive things to yourself. Tell yourself how proud you are about being you :). We all need acts of shown love, and even in this case, it’s not an exemption.
7. Surround yourself with the right people
Our surrounding has a huge impact on ourselves. The family we come from, the country and society we live in, and the people we interact with can influence how we think and behave. Who’s around you can make you or break you, so choose carefully with whom you’re spending most of your time.
Especially in reaching your dreams, it’s important to surround yourself with people that will help you to go on, not the ones that can stop you or kill your dream.
These are the right people to be with:
- positive people
- dreamers and doers like you
- people that have achieved their dreams
- people that inspires and motivates you
- people in your target field or area
- your fans (thank you, mommy!)
- people that believe in you
- people that believe in the impossible
People to avoid, limit your time with or keep away from sharing your dreams:
- negative and depressed people (help them within your ability but put boundaries)
- people that don’t respect you and that try to distract you on purpose from what your goals
- envy people (never associate with people jealous of you)
- people that don’t believe in you (prove them they’re wrong!)
- people that belittle your dreams (be an example to them)
8. Take a step toward your dream every day
Plan to do every day at least one thing that will take you closer to your dream. It can be sending an email, reading a few pages of a book, practicing and refining your skills.
Understand and believe that that task is a step of the journey to your dream or goal, and as you’re taking one step every day, your Promise Land is getting closer and closer 🙂
9. Reward yourself
Never forget to reward yourself. As we give treats when we train our pets, or we reward children for doing their homework or behaving well, we have to reward ourselves too! You can reward yourself with a small treat, with something you wanted to do but don’t have time for, gifts or even just say to yourself “Good job! You did great!”.
Doing this leaves a good memory to your brain, making the action or task easier to do next time and, as a result, it creates the habit. And it’s just right to enjoy after working hard!
10. Start living your dream today!
Create even more momentum by actually living your dream now! Even if it means to do it for free 🙂
It may sound like giving away your time and energy, but it’s not. Doing it for free will allow you to test if it’s really something you want. If you don’t like doing it for free, you will hardly like it in the long run even when paid. It is also a good chance to refine your skills and to network, and you’ll help someone else!
If your dream is to become an event planner or a wedding planner, volunteer to organize a friend’s wedding, or if you want to open a restaurant, invite friends to try your best recipes and volunteer to organize dinners at local events. Do it as you would do it for real cash and give unforgettable first impressions.
So, start to live your dreams today!
Don’t base your dream journey on motivation, but give it its proper value. While hustling, feed it. It is the fuel that launches your hard work to reach your dreams.
Do you struggle with motivation sometimes, or are you a task driven person?